It's been ages since I posted but the truth of the matter is that life has been pretty busy since I moved into our new townhome. Basically, Matt is no longer in school anymore so I don't have any free time at all. Scott (my ex husband) takes Matt every other weekend from Saturday night until Monday morning so I have around 24 hours to get things all my errands, any house projects and anything else I want done. It's really hard work caring for Matt 24/7. I don't mind but I have to hustle every day to get everything done. I cook everything from scratch for him, prepare all of his meals, feedings (he gets one cup every hour so feedings take 2 hours) plus getting him up, changing him, dressing him, taking him out for walks and moving him with the hoyer lift. It all takes time. He's a big man to move and it's a lot. Anyway, on to the fun stuff!
I decided to make a "Voice" costume for Matt this year. I like to select costumes where it's natural for the person to be sitting down since Matt is in a wheelchair. In addition, I wanted to kick it up a notch this year, and send out a card. Since Matt is non-verbal, I decided to add the words, "Because everyone needs a voice." to the card. I think it's important for everyone to be heard and it's just a fun reminder to acknowledge the disabled. I would give the world to be able to talk to Matt, to have a conversation with him, to find out what he likes and what is in his heart. I'd love to know what he's thinking about. I do know what makes him smile but it would be pretty good to hear him talk. Matt's only spoken 5 words in his life. They are: hi", "Mom" and "I love you". The "I love you" isn't really intelligible to most people but I know what he's trying to say. He hasn't said the "hi" or "I love you" in years and only recently started trying to say, "Mom" again. I melt every time he tries to say it. It should not be hard to say "Mom". (Here's a picture of me, lol.)
One thing that changed for us was that when we lived in our studio apartment, I could hear Matt if he needed me at night. Matt's bed was on one end of the apartment, the living area and kitchen were in the middle and my bedroom was on the other end. It was a very pretty apartment and if Matt needed to be changed at night or needed anything, he'd make a noise and I could hear him. In our new townhome, our bedrooms are next to each other but you have to go into the hallway to get to his room. As a result, I can't hear Matt breathe at night very well from my room. If he needs to be changed, he coughs "once". He coughs "once" when he needs to be changed and sometimes he justs "coughs" to clear his throat. That means, I have to jump up and go and see if he needs to be changed or if he's o.k. It's a lot of work and when I am tired, I always pray that I'll hear him when I am sleeping. Sometimes, I wake up and wonder if I really heard him or if I was dreaming. I don't ever want him to lie in pee at night and it's stressful. Matt doesn't have the strength to cough more than once so I have to be on my toes! It makes you appreciate all of the gifts you have when you understand how difficult it can be for the disabled. That's kind of why I thought the phrase, "because everyone needs a voice" was a perfect tie in to his costume this year.
Since Matt is getting older, I thought I'd create a card and send it out for Halloween instead of Trick or Treating. He's a little old for that although if I could get away with it, I'd parade him all over the neighborhood because it's such fun! I still like to celebrate the holidays with him and I love creating costumes for him. And yes, I'll probably create them until he's 50 years old, lol. I just love that young man and it's hard not to celebrate him.
Here are a few pictures of his costume:
We also got to show off at the neurologist's office last week. Matt is now able to sit up in a portable wheelchair and use his feet to move it. Granted, Matt can't sit up very long (less than 5 minutes) but he hasn't been able to do this in almost ten years. He had a little trouble getting his left foot moving and then the doctor and nurse started cheering him on and clapping and he was able to move his feet a bit. Dad pushes the wheelchair to help him but it's pretty amazing considering that he couldn't even move a toe in 2010 before I started the Now Foods Organic Virgin Coconut Oil and his blenderized diet.
Anyway, Matt looks great. I am so blessed to have such a wonderful son. Matt grew up into the nicest young man a mother could ever have. I hope you have a Happy Halloween.